Does this thinking sound familiar to you: “I can’t be disappointed we only got 2 embryos; my friend got zero!” There’s a term for it and it’s called comparative suffering. We have these thoughts in the TTC community all the time, even when the world isn’t upside down. In this piece we’ll talk about comparative suffering, how to overcome it and why it doesn’t help anyone.
The infertility community is known for being an encouraging, hope-filled community, usually cheering one another on with positive messages like “Never give up!” But is there such a thing as too much positivity? Psychotherapist and fertility coach Cristina DiBartolomeo discusses what happens when positivity while TTC turns toxic.
The thing about having a miscarriage is that it’s awful for about 78 different reasons. So when someone close to you makes an insensitive comment, it can make you feel so, so much worse. We talked to five women who experienced miscarriages to explore what specific things some of their friends said or did to help them feel loved and supported.
Arguably one of the most painful aspects of going through infertility is how misunderstood it is. No matter how hard our friends and family try to get it…they just don’t. Here are 4 metaphors you can use to try and convey just how frustrating, heartbreaking and crazy-making the whole fertility experience can be.
Infertility is a traumatic life event for millions of women and men. And because talking about it is still taboo, few people feel comfortable opening up to their friends and family. This makes others who have gone through the experience ideal allies for those in need of emotional support. But what exactly makes someone a good fertility mentor?