Does this thinking sound familiar to you: “I can’t be disappointed we only got 2 embryos; my friend got zero!” There’s a term for it and it’s called comparative suffering. We have these thoughts in the TTC community all the time, even when the world isn’t upside down. In this piece we’ll talk about comparative suffering, how to overcome it and why it doesn’t help anyone.
Elyse Ash is the founder and CEO of Fruitful Fertility. It took her and her husband Brad three years, two rounds of IVF and one frozen embryo transfer to see their first positive pregnancy test which brought them their daughter, born in March 2018. Elyse lives in Minneapolis and loves poetry, hockey, social justice, Beyonce and pretending she’s into yoga.
In this time of global crisis, preserving our mental health is of the utmost importance. Watch this video recording of Elyse Ash asking fertility mental health experts, Debbie Fischer and Dr. Deborah Simmons, how the TTC community can best try to manage their stress, anxiety, anger and fear in this post-Coronavirus world.
The Coronavirus (COVID-19) continues to spread globally and is affecting the TTC community in many ways. Many IVF and IUI cycles are getting postponed due to growing health concerns. If your cycle or treatment has been cancelled or postponed, all we have to say is: 1) THAT SUCKS and 2) We’re so sorry this is happening.